Sunday, March 7, 2010

Sabbath Sunday #14: Progress

Fr. Christian Mathis (Blessed Is the Kingdom) has made the suggestion that we "rest" on the Sabbath by taking a break from our normal blogging and sharing an older post of which we are particularly fond. Rest? Gladly! I don't get to do that very often, but now, thanks to Fr. Christian, I get to do it at least once a week -- and it gives me more time to spend with God, which is a wonderful gift.

For this week's post, I chose Million Dollar Baby. As our granddaughter, Nikolina, approaches her first birthday, it is edifying to look back on the past nearly 12 months. From the unassembled baby that no one except her family and one urologist (her attending physician) had any hope would live; past the first million dollar bill that gave pause to consider the values of life versus money; past the second million dollar bill that caused Shane, her father, to lose his job; to the spunky year-old (well, almost) who does not cry at blood-drawing but head-bops and shouts "yeah" to the lyrics of contemporary music.

Here is the progression from her first day after an at-birth ten-hour set of surgeries to present day:






















































































Have a blessed Sunday!

Saturday, March 6, 2010

"Make Me an Instrument of Your Peace"

A while back, I mentioned in a Monday Morning Meditation ("True Forgiveness Requires Love") a couple of years ago, the president of our union at the organization where I work died suddenly. His best friend took charge of the funeral, and his family flew from out of town. The friend gave the family a list of potential eulogists, with their backgrounds. They chose two others and me.

Had they been given the full background, they might have selected differently. The union president had opposed my being hired and not much time had elapsed since I had arrived for him to become supportive. He was, at best, collegial. I, too, was collegial. Actually, I forgave him. After all, he had lost; I had been offered the job over his dissent.

So, surprised but willing, I set about to write the eulogy, but I could not. The more I tried, the blanker the page became. The blanker the page became, the foggier my memory became. I could not think of one thing to write, let alone dreaming up those wonderful warm fuzzy phrases for starting and finishing. There really is not a lot of advance writing time for a eulogy, and so the night before the funeral I was facing the prospect of reading a blank sheet the next day.

I took a walk around our mission grounds where I go when I need special time alone to think and to commune with God. I asked God for help and was led to understand that I had to forgive this man. But I had forgiven him, I argued. No, was the response. Forgiveness is not simply the deliberate pushing aside of malice or resentment. True forgiveness springs from love.

You mean, I have to love this guy, honestly, seriously, fully love him? I took in that concept with more than a bit of incredulity. How would that be possible?

Yet, it must be possible. The realization, nestled in certainty, that the need to love him was the key to writing the eulogistic words sank deeply into my consciousness.

Well, as we know, with God all things are possible. As I began to think of the good things he had done for several of my employees, the times he had come to me to ask me to bend some rules for the good of one person or another or to take in someone who had run afoul of management in another division, and the way in which he had worked tirelessly, selfless, and humbly for the benefit of the employees, I began to feel both love and respect for him. I wish I had been able to achieve this level of forgiveness and love while he was alive. The minute that wish crossed my mind, the dam holding back the eulogistic thoughts broke, and ink splattered all over my paper. I had a eulogy, a really decent eulogy, thanks be to God.

The next day after I delivered the eulogy, my boss's boss said that, based on the warmth of my words, it must have been difficult for me to write that eulogy. How little did he know how right he was -- but for the wrong reason. Several days later, the union president's friend found me in my office and told me that the family asked him to relay to me how meaningful they had found my eulogy. They wanted me to know that their healing had begun with my last word.

Amazingly, God taught me a lesson in forgiveness and love at the same time that He used me to help a family. Two birds with one stone!

Thinking back on it, I cannot help but think of the words of one of my favorite songs (sung by Sinead O'Connor), often mistakenly attributed to St. Francis (definitely convergent with the Weltanschauung of St. Francis although it can only be traced as far back as a French-language version, published in La Clochette (The Little Bell) in 1912):
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon:
where there is doubt, faith ;
where there is despair, hope
where there is darkness, light
where there is sadness, joy
O divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.

Amen.

(I have no idea why I am being led to re-post this particular story, with adaptation and added details. I guess someone needs to hear it.)

Friday, March 5, 2010

7 Quick Takes Friday #18

My second week in a row at home! What pleasure! And now it is time for this week's contribution to the Quick Takes meme hosted by Jennifer Futwiler at Conversion Diary.

1. The saga of the friend that I had to "fire" on Friday continued this week. Last week I promised the ending, and here it is, but first, a recap from last week: "I have to fire a friend, currently working as a junior manager, for poor performance. (I did not hire her; my boss forced her on me against my better judgment. Now, he has some embarrassment, too.) Ugh! Unfortunately, this relatively new junior manager, in three months of training, was unable to learn even the basics of management. I had a team of six people mentoring her on various aspects of her job. All of them came to the conclusion in recent days that not only is she untrainable but also her pride and lack of self-awareness preclude anyone's ability to train her. So, the decision was made to fire." On Friday, she was supposed to see the senior manager, her supervisor, at 1:00. At that time, he would have given her the bad news. Well, instead, she sent him an enote, saying that she was ill and going home. Later in the day, she popped up in my boss's office on another matter, and he ended up being the one to tell her that she was being reassigned as a rank-and-file employee, that she did not have the skills at this time for being a manager. His involvement seemed like poetic justice. On Monday, she met with the senior manager and got the bad news -- again. (None of us knew what had transpired on Friday.) He said she was stoic, but it turns out that she was prepared. A little later, she wrote a note to all her employees, saying that she had decided to leave her position and had asked to be reassigned for reasons of health. Wow, she seemed to have taken it all very well, and if she wanted to save face by announcing that it was her decision and health-related, we were all willing to look the other way. I did not get a chance to talk to her on Monday, but Tuesday, before going home, I dropped by to say good-bye and was walking with her to go out the door when she started sobbing -- and sobbing and sobbing. So, I led her into my office and talked to her for more than two hours. She exhibited a complete inability to look at herself objectively, but I was able to bring her to peace with the decision to replace her. I don't know how I was able to do that, but it really helped that while talking to her I was very aware that God was with us and in her -- after all, a little piece of God is within all of us, that is what binds us as a body of believers, right? Clearly, guidance I had asked for was given, and I am very grateful to God for my sake and for hers.

2. I learned this week that my beloved Fr. Terry, whom I can consult for just about anything, is leaving the area. He will be working as a chaplain at a retirement colony for friars. I suppose it is an appropriate assignment since he is 82 years old, but he acts -- and clearly feels -- much younger and has been very active in our community, at Old Mission, and as director of the local retreat center. Everyone loves him; I cannot think of anyone who does not or who has not benefited from his years and years of experience in walking with God and advising God's people. When I called to say goodbye to him, he told me that I had been "a light" to him in the past three years he has been here." He certainly knows how to make someone feel happy. If these were more than kind words and this were really true, then I am infinitely grateful to God for allowing me to play this role!

3. A sad event took place on Sunday. The mother of Fr. E., our parish priest, died from breast cancer. Fortunately, Fr. E. was able to get home to Ireland before she died and be with her during her last hours. Today the funeral took place in Ireland, and concurrently we held a rosary for Fr. E's mother at Old Mission. People turned out in force, and various parishioners led the service. At the end, Fr. M, the Latin Mass priest, gave a final benediction. Sula, our parish feral cat, came in before the service, came up to me for some petting, then found herself a seat on the pew across from me between two men. Except for nestling on someone's coat during communion, she sat up proudly between the two of them during the entire service, just as if she fully understood what was going on and was participating. Fr. M went over at the end of the service to greet her. I love this parish! (Photo is of the statue of St. John the Baptist on the Old Mission grounds.)

4. I had very good news from my cardiologist today. I was down another two pounds, and he is happy with my rate of weight loss. I am down 13 pounds since mid-January. My blood pressure is also down, and he reneged on this threat to replace my very mild medication with a stronger one. He is also allowing me six weeks before my next visit. He is still concerned about my heart although I am certain all is fine. Anyway, I have never seen him quite so relaxed about it. Yes!

5. I also had a good Arabic lesson today. Since we have a visiting manager from Egypt, who is originally from Jordan and speaks the dialect of Arabic that I knew, I asked him to talk to me in Arabic for a half-hour each morning since I am losing my proficiency in it for lack of use. Often, it feels like pulling teeth to be able to communicate well. Today, however, I surprised him -- and myself -- by spending nearly the whole time, talking about the theology of St. Paul, in particular in regard to his propensity toward dialectic thinking (i.e. thesis, antithesis, synthesis). I was so pleased that I could actually handle a rather complex topic with my limited Arabic, which might become less limited if I had more opportunity to use it.

6. Shane, Lemony, and kids spent the weekend in San Francisco at the Chinese parade and other activities. They go there every year for this celebration and decided it might be okay this year, too. Things are looking up for them, and I will indeed soon get around to writing the Clan Rising post I promised for the Clan of Mahlou blog. It looks like Shane will have a job perhaps as soon as April. A former employer wants him back but cannot offer a job until he passes a security clearance. They have put the clearance process on the fast track and assume that it will be completed by some time in April. (Here is a good example of why it is never a good idea to burn bridges when leaving a job. Shane left under pleasant conditions, and so coming back was a possibility -- and, thank God, they just "happened" to have an opening.)

7. Well, I am going to have to wrap this up pretty quickly and get to bed before the midnight hour fully approaches. Tomorrow morning I have to get up at 5 a.m. in order to travel to north with a team of people from work to an all-day meeting in Los Altos Hills. Oh, joy! A bus ride! (I am packing dramamine!) I have no idea where Los Altos Hills is located other than in somewhat north of us, so I assumed that it must be somewhere around San Francisco (or perhaps closer, near San Jose). Since I am not driving, I suppose I don't need to know. That is good; I already have too much extraneous information in my little head!

Hoping that you have a great weekend and will get some more sleep than it seems that I am in for!

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Attitude Counts

A few weeks ago, I reported on my significantly delayed United Airlines flight to Lithuania. Many people were impatient and even angry about the delay, which turned out to be nine full hours. The anger could easily have been averted had the airlines provided frequently updated information. However, that did not happen. No one really understood why there was a delay except for "technical problems," and no one knew when the flight would take off or a new plane and crew found. As time wore on, patience on the part of most passengers wore out. Courtesy on both sides deteriorated. Many unkind words were spoken, and grumpy passengers stomped onto the plane when it finally arrived.

United failed to meet customer need because the airlines representatives failed to ascertain it. I had my ticket re-done appropriately for my needs at the Red Carpet Club. The new set of flights would have me staying overnight in Frankfurt and taking the morning flight to Vilnius, where I would be met by a driver from the university for the 4-hour drive to Klaipeda (or I could have taken the morning bus there). When I reached Frankfurt, however, a Ms. Leimbach, who met the plane, called my name and thrust new tickets into my hands that would have me leaving Frankfurt within the hour, arriving in Vilnius at 1:00 in the morning -- without any hotel reservations in a climate that was well below zero and an airport that closed over night. I would have been out of the street, in the cold, with no place to go. I refused the tickets, telling Ms. P. Leimbach that I had the set that I needed from the San Francisco club. She informed me that those had been re-done and waived me off. I tried to explain the situation, that Vilnius was not my final destination, but she was not willing to listen and moved on to the next passenger, for whom, hopefully, she was not going to create a similar crisis.

With ongoing tickets on Lufthansa, I made my way to the Lufthansa ransfer desk, and explained the situation to a very nice lady whose name I should not have forgotten but have. She understand completely and restored the original changed tickets that I had received in San Francisco. I happily stayed overnight in Frankfurt, caught the morning plane to Vilnius, and met my driver exactly 24 hours later than planned. All was well.

I am going to write to the president of United Airlines. It is not difficult to deal with angry people. My son Shane, as a 15-year-old working the complaint counter at Sears knew how to do it. He adopted the attitude that it was not his problem, and he did not make it his problem. He patiently waited until customer calmed down. If the customer was having difficulty calming down, he would tell the customer that he sincerely wanted to help but could not do anything while the customer was angry. Almost always, customers would calm down because they wanted to be helped. The major difference between my 15-year-old and the older adult airline representatives was attitude. My son wanted to help so was willing to wait for the customer to work through his/her anger and be ready to be helped.

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One should never judge others as I have done to some extent above with the passengers and airlines representatives from my United flight because judgment has a habit of coming home to roost. On an Alaskan Airlines flight from Seattle to San Francisco last Saturday afternoon returning from Anchorage (see my brief comment on 7 Quick Takes Friday), the gate agent would not let me carry on my backpack, claiming it was too big. Mind you, I have carried that bag on hundreds of flights and hundreds of thousands of air miles on nearly every American carrier and many foreign carriers over the past 4-5 years I have owned it. It is the perfect carry-on because it rolls when I don't want anything on my back and has nicely padded straps for carrying when I need my hands free. Had I not had both my computer and some breakable items in it, I would have cheerfully have handed it over, but the reality was that I did not have those things and the agent's insistence that the bag would not fit under the seat or in the overhead when I had had flown with it on much smaller planes, as well as on the arriving Alaskan Airlines plane of the same size, made me anything but cheerful.

Since the gate agent would not even let me on to try, I unpacked the computer and put the breakables in a plastic bag, which I fortunately had, handed the backpack to the agent, and, with an armful of loose goods, found my seat. Placing them on the floor, I somewhat grumpily sat down in my seat.

Once seated, I pulled out of my purse a wonderful book I have been reading lately, Abandonment to Divine Providence, but I could not get past 1-2 sentences without needing to go back and re-read it. This happened several times before I realized that I was frustrated.

Wait a minute! I had given up frustration for Lent. That had lasted only four days?! I dissolved into prayer, and the frustration dissolved!

Now I get to start over. I guess I am giving up frustration for Lent. I'm just not very good at the "giving up" part yet. Well, as they say, practice makes perfect, and I suspect that I am going to get a lot of practice on this one.

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I had written the above continuation of this blog post on the flight to Seattle. Little did I realize how quickly I would have another opportunity to practice. Upon arrival, my gate-checked bag was nowhere to be seen. I queried Mr. Wendell, the agent meeting the plane, about it. He asked for my orange tag. I did not have an orange tag. I had a white tag.

"Oh," Mr. Wendell said, "then you need to pick it up on the baggage carousal."

Clearly, that was not going to work. I was transferring from Alaskan Air to United Airlines (Yes!), and, with Alaskan Airlines arriving a half-hour late and United being in a different terminal, where I still had to get my boarding pass, I had just barely enough time to grab the train between terminals (I usually walk the distance, but this time walking would not be possible), get my boarding pass from the ticket counter, clear security, and get to the departure gate. I explained this to Mr. Wendell, who asked for my claim tag, saying he would call and have the backpack transferred to the United Monterey flight.

Off I ran to the airport train, together with one of the senior managers, who works for me and who had been traveling with me. I explained to him the situation with my backpack, noting in retrospect that I had told Mr. Wendell that I was taking the United flight to Monterey but had not told him the flight number! Knowing of my decision to give up frustration for Lent, the senior manager commented, "But you're not frustrated, right?"

No, actually, I had put the opportunity to be frustrated in abeyance until I could talk to a United agent. At the check-in counter, the ticket agent could not find any record of my bag. Since Mr. Wendell had my claim number, there was no way to search for it in the computer. She suggested talking to the baggage handlers planeside.

Off we ran again, clearing security quickly, thanks to our super-frequent-flyer status. We dashed up to the gate on time. The plane, though, was not on time. We would have to wait for an hour.

Hm... Another chance to check on my backpack while there were still options, should it be sitting on the Alaskan Airlines baggage carousal rather than in the United cargo hold, waiting for the transfer. I suggested that we wait in the Red Carpet Club. (When one travels as frequently as we do, the annual membership fee is well worth the reduced wear and tear on our bodies.) It was evening, and we had not eaten all day. The senior manager could chow down some healthy munchies -- carrots, celery, and fruit. I could check with the club's ticket agent as to the status of my bag.

The club's ticket agent could find no information at all in the computer. I had three options: (1) travel as planned, (2) stay in San Francisco and have Donnie pick me up there (a long drive but I do fly from San Francisco upon occasion), or (3) take the 10:00 flight (vice 7:30) and check the carousal just in case.

The best choice was unclear. If Mr. Wendell had successfully transferred my bag, #2 and #3 meant that I would be in San Francisco and my bag in Monterey. If he had not been successful, #1 meant I would be in Monterey and my bag in San Francisco. Whether Mr. Wendell had been successful was a missing piece of information, critical to making a logical, informed decision. Complicating the matter was the fact that although I had taken out my computer and was carrying it with me, I had not taken out the cord. (Note to self: buy a spare cord for traveling.) In addition, there was no identification on the bag (it was a carry-on, after all) except a handwoven purple strap from Korea with the letter B. So, if the bag was left in San Francisco on the Alaskan Airlines carousal, no one would know to whom the bag belonged. Gate-side claim tags have no names on them, and the numbers are not entered into the computer. You are supposed to pick it up on de-planing because it is traveling with you. Supposedly. Sigh!

I called Donnie to tell him about the plane delay. He and Doah were about to set out for dinner. We decided that he would wait for my next call before heading south to Monterey or north to San Francisco. He also mentioned that the backpack had a stuffbak zipper pull, offering a reward to the finder through the stuffbak 800 number. (Stuffbak has brought three lost cell phones back to me, as well as a suitcase lost by American Airlines and found by an airport janitor.) That reassured me, and I decided to get on the planned 7:30 flight to Monterey.

As I boarded the flight, I saw that the bag was not on the planeside cart. I talked to the baggage handlers, who said that it might have been loaded already but they had no way of knowing. No frustration yet. What would be would be, and the young Flemish man in the seat next to me was a pleasant co-traveler. Besides, I had more important things to worry about: the pilot on this very small, propeller-driven plane looked younger than my son!

The plane arrived on time. I disembarked with the other passengers and walked over to the plane-side baggage cart. Nope. No backpack of mine there. Well, there was the carousal possibility. The bags came up somewhat slowly, but soon they were all out. All, except my backpack.

I did get a chance to reflect on what might cause the feelings of frustration. I came to the conclusion at that point frustration occurs when you have a problem but no resources (money, time, authority, help) to resolve it on one's own. So, enlisting the help of others would be important.

Since Alaska Airlines does not fly into Monterey, there was nothing to be done except return to San Ignatio and call the Alaskan Airlines 800 number and hope that I would find that needed help. When I called, I was given the Alaskan Airlines baggage office number at the San Francisco airport. I called. No answer. I called again. No answer. I called a third time. No answer. I left three messages. No one called me back.

Giving up on that approach, I called the 800 number again. As the woman on the other end, Zena, began to put me off again, I told her she could not pass me off to someone else because that would frustrate and I am not supposed to get frustrated. So, she stayed on the line and called the San Francisco baggage office -- with the same results I got. She eventually reached a janitor, who put her online with a supervisor. (What is it with these janitors who are doing a better job than the baggage handlers at locating bags?)

To make an already long story no longer, I got my backpack back. Mr. Wendell, when he realized that my bag would not make the next flight out, realized that he had no idea to whom the bag really belonged while I, who did know, did not have the claim number. He compared the Alaskan Air and United manifests and determined that I was the only femal passenger transferring to United to Monterey. Once he had my name, he entered the claim number with a red flag on my ticket information in the computer so that I would have the claim number if I needed it. (I think Mr. Wendell would make a great FBI or CIA employee!) Zena then followed the number, found the bag on the 10:00 United flight, and I went and picked it up at the tiny Monterey airport the next morning, per agreement with Zena.

Now, I am also going to write a letter to the president of Alaskan Airlines. In this case, it is to say thank you for superior service to two creative and dedicated employees: Mr. Wendell and Zena.

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Yes, indeed, attitudes does count. Mine, too!

Monday, March 1, 2010

Monday Morning Meditation #31: Do Not Cause My People to Sin

This Monday is beginning a bit ineptly. I wanted to get up early; I overslept a little -- not enough to miss out on my prater time but enough perhaps to run out of time to share it with you. I had two loads of laundry to run through before going to work; only one load will make it. (So, do I wear clean underwear and inappropriate clothes, or the other unthinkable combination? I chose the clean underwear -- even though no one sees it!) Fortunately, no need to think about breakfast; my current diet allows only cereal and milk, quick enough to gulp down in five minutes. Donnie casually asked what time I am leaving for Hawaii tomorrow; dunno. I also don't know yet which airline or airport. Will figure that out today. And, the thought is nagging at the back of my mind that my friend, whom my boss forced me to take as a junior manager and who failed as such, never got fully fired on Friday because she ran off on sick leave, then appeared at my boss's office on another issue. I have not been able to reach him to find out if he told her she is being fired by her current supervisor, a senior manager who works for me and with whose decision I concur, from her current position in my organization (he has to help find another position for her -- I looked for something as well).

In any event, I did not have to read far to find something that really struck me today. In the very next chapter, in the very next verse, actually, I came across the story of Baasa, who caused Israel to sin and ignited the ire of God, who smote him, wiping out him, his whole family, any progeny, and all his potential glory as a ruler. Goodness gracious, these Old Testament stories hit home for me!

Reading: I Kings 16: 1-20


Meditation: The story of Baasa opened old sorrows for me. When I first came to faith (at a very late date, I might add), one of the things that I realized with a good deal of sadness was the number of people I had led away from God. Had it been only my family that would have been sad enough, but I had always held leadership positions and had always been outspoken in my atheism. Never pushy, but open about my opinions on just about anything, including what I considered to be an accurate understanding of the non-existence of God. This really confused Americans I had brought to Jordan to teach at a university there. Overwhelmed by the great differences between American and Jordanian life styles, the bridge between which I tried to be for them, they would turn to me for all kinds of physical and emotional help. I earned the title, "God's agent in Jordan." When they found out I was an atheist, they were lost as to what was going on. Only one persevered in not accepting my atheism. He called me "a believer in waiting." Still, as a senior leader in several different positions, working literally on a global scale, I had the opportunity to influence the thinking of many people. Especially younger ones took me on as a role model in far too many cases, a role model that included giving up their faith and accepting my atheist ways. (I was not immoral or unethical -- Donnie says I was "brutally ethical" -- but all decisions were made based on secular ethical systems, not on any thought of God or God's will.)

After coming to faith, I was immensely remorseful for "stealing" people's faith from them. I know God has forgiven me. I know that strong faith won't bend to atheism. I know that God will make right what I put wrong. Still, the remorse is there. Most days now I don't think about it because it is in the past, and it is in God's hands. However, when I read stories like these from the Old Testament, I cannot feel good about who I was. I can only feel grateful for God's grace in the matter.

And that is far as I can go with you this Monday morning. I must run to work, already having finished my prayers for this morning, which I did before retiring, instead of after, today because of the limited time available (and look h ow good God is -- I did finish writing before having to leave for work!). A brief description of the non-private contents of those prayers: I asked, no begged, God to let me help Him put right what I put wrong, something I often do; repented -- oh, how often and sincerely I do! -- for those times in the past that I cannot go back and re-live and did so much harm to so many people; thanked God for those times in which I have been allowed to meet individuals who have re-found their faith after my devastating earlier negative influences on them; and gave praise for the wonderful grace that forgives and forgives and loves and loves. After that, I spent an all-too-brief time in contemplation, my favorite part of the day, letting God take over the direction in which my relationship with Him moves.

I will now leave you to your prayer and contemplation, but first, I would like to bring to your attention a Monday morning prayer post that you might enjoy:

Fr. Austin Fleming, priest of the Archdiocese of Boston and pastor in Concord, Massachusetts, posts a prayer each Monday morning that he calls "Monday Morning Offering." I enjoy his prayers very much. I hope you also will find them inspirational. He has graciously given me permission to include a link to his blog on my Monday Morning Meditation posts.

For additional inspiration throughout the week, I would point out two sets of blogs: (1) the list of devotional blogs that follow the enumeration of Monday Morning Meditations on the sidebar of this blog and (2) my blogroll, where I am following a number of inspirational priests and writers about spiritual matters. I learn so very much from all these people. I highly recommend them to you.

Sunday, February 28, 2010

Sabbath Sunday #13: Making the Sad Glad

Fr. Christian Mathis (Blessed Is the Kingdom) has made the suggestion that we "rest" on the Sabbath by taking a break from our normal blogging and sharing an older post of which we are particularly fond. Rest? Gladly! I don't get to do that very often, but now, thanks to Fr. Christian, I get to do it at least once a week -- and it gives me more time to spend with God, which is a wonderful gift.

This week has been a sorrowful one. Fr. Barry, my confidante and de facto spiritual advisor, especially when it comes to the mystical experiences I sometimes have, is moving to be chaplain at a retirement community for clerics about an hour away. The positive side is that it is not that far; the down side is that the road between here and there is very winding, sometimes not easily passable, up and down and around through mountains. Still, it could have been Arizona and not California! This week, also, as we were planning a good-bye dinner for a colleague from Jordan together with Fr. Ed, he got called home to Ireland where his mother is seriously ill. The last note I received from him said that he expected to be there for at least another ten days -- and then today I heard that the doctors do not expect his mother to recover. Please pray for him and for his mother -- and for Fr. Barry, too, who is 80+ years old, as he makes this new transition. By comparison, my minor problems with backpack disappearance and reappearance and firing of a friend -- both fraught with temptations for frustration -- were only small potholes on the road.

Now, for that post, I chose one where I had a far more frustrating day/week: Justice or Mercy? I am happy to report that dilemma was resolved within a few days: What a Wonderful Day It was! (Yeah, the latter posting came from last week's Sabbath Sunday -- more than one dilemma was taken care of by that one day. It is amazing how time itself and God over time can turn our big problems into little ones and then turn our little ones inside out, making the sad glad.

Have a blessed Sunday!

Friday, February 26, 2010

7 Quick Takes Friday #17

Back home! Back home! I've been home all week! What pleasure! And now it is time for this week's contribution to the Quick Takes meme hosted by Jennifer Futwiler at Conversion Diary.

1. Saturday morning I started out in Alaska. What a beautiful place! The view from my hotel window was spectacular, but even more spectacular were the views along the mountain roads between downtown Anchorage and the location of our branch office in a relatively rural area. (Sorry to disappoint any Alaskans reading this blog, but the mountains do not compare in any way to the Alps, where I have had many opportunities to hike and walk with friends!)

2. The trip back was far from without incident, and definitely tested my Lenten pledge to give up frustration. My backpack was taken from me in Seattle by the Alaskan Air gate area. It is a complex story, so I will write about it in a subsequent post. Essentially, I made it home just fine. My poor backpack was another story, as was my need to balance computer and breakable good on the airplanes without a backpack. Yi, ai!

3. On Sunday, we held a memorial for Ray. It was good to see Noelle get out of her apartment and gather together with friends to say goodbye to Ray. She has been quite depressed since his death in mid-January and has pretty much kept to herself, not even always wanting to see her parents, let alone her friends. Seeing her smile and laugh together with Ray's friends at the memorial was heartwarming -- and a relief. It was also heartwarming to see who came: representatives of most local ethnic groups (African-American, Native American, Hispanic, and Caucasian). That was Ray. He had a way of bringing together people of different ethnicities.

4. Our prayer group meeting on Monday was also heartwarming. We usually pray at the beginning and at the end. During the meeting, we sing, share experiences, ask for prayers, update each other, do some lectio divina, read scripture, do some spiritual exercises, and the like. The content varies week by week and mood by mood. Interestingly, on Monday night, the mood was very unusual. We spent nearly the whole evening in prayer, and no one wanted to stop. In fact, bringing the meeting to closure, which meant stopping the prayers, was almost painful. We all commented on it because it was not typical.

5. Yesterday I conducted new manager training. It is one of the most enjoyable things I do. New managers are so fresh. They are often new to management. They are certainly new to their positions and often to our organization. We have a wonderfully loving, supportive, and work-dedicated ambiance at work that I don't want to have corrupted by the introduction of managerial approaches that are autocratic or otherwise in direct opposition to our organizational ethos. So, when we start to gather a preponderance of new managers, I talk to them about the principles of servant leadership, which is the leadership philosophy that guides me. The new managers had interesting questions about applications to their current problems. Now those discussions are the meat and potatoes of my existence!

6. And then came this morning. I wrote the following on my face book page: "I don't want to go to work today. Will someone give me permission to stay home and hide out under the bed? I have to fire a friend, currently working as a junior manager, for poor performance. (I did not hire her; my boss forced her on me against my better judgment. Now, he has some embarrassment, too.) Ugh!" Unfortunately, this relatively new junior manager, in three months of training, was unable to learn even the basics of management. I had a team of six people mentoring her on various aspects of her job. All of them came to the conclusion in recent days that not only is she untrainable but also her pride and lack of self-awareness preclude anyone's ability to train her. So, the decision was made to fire now. The firing did not take the normal path, however, and since the story is not quite finished, I will wait and relate details when it is. I will comment, however, that it seems that my prayers for guidance and help in this matter have been answered.

7. Giving up frustration for Lent has been an extraordinary experience in a very short period of time. Once I made that decision, it seems that very trying circumstances come up more frequently now, such as the backpack problem on Saturday and the need to oversee the firing of a friend on Friday. What has been extraordinary has been the constant answer to prayer to hold my frustration at bay. I have also asked people at work to point out when I am getting frustrated; that gives me time to retire to my office and say a prayer before it becomes a full-fledged, unmanageable emotion. I think I made the right decision this year on what to give up. I am at peace (so far) under even trying circumstances. Thank You, God!

Wishing you a great weekend, much peace, and no frustration!