Showing posts with label cars and driving. Show all posts
Showing posts with label cars and driving. Show all posts

Saturday, November 14, 2009

DWM: Driving While Mexican

Years have passed -- 35 of them, to be precise -- since I trained at Ft. Jackson, South Carolina as an initial entry soldier. I went on, over time, to receive a direct commission and become an officer, leaving behind enlisted days (though I benefited from that experience tremendously) and South Carolina. I have not been back until this year -- earlier to visit our Columbia-area campus briefly and today to visit my daughter Lizzie and my son-in-law Blaine. Lizzie and Blaine have been living in southern South Carolina now for three months. While they like it, they have run into a phenomenon with which they had never had to contend while living in California: racial discrimination.

Lizzie, my little professor (another Dr. Mahlou), reports that her classrooms contain mixed races who work together peaceably but self-segregate, with African Americans sitting on one side of the classroom, Caucasians on the other, and the others in the middle. She has talked to them about desegregation in their classroom, but they insist on sitting with their friends -- and their friends generally come from the same ethnic/racial group. Lizzie, who has found this voluntary segregation to be disconcerting, has intermixed them for projects, but for regular lecture-listening, they go back to their color-coded seats. By comparison, Lizzie grew up in an area that was racially blended, not merely mixed. As a result, her two closest girlfriends were Hispanic and Asian, and her boyfriends were (in order) African American, Hispanic, African American, Caucasian, Hispanic. She married Blaine, who is Hispanic. Typical Californians, my other children also grew up racially blind. Shane also married Hispanic, and Noelle's significant other, Ray, is African American. Donnie is as Caucasian as they come, and I am mostly Caucasian with a drop of Native American blood that "took" as far as my facial features are concerned.

Years ago when Lizzie graduated from the University of California at San Diego, President Clinton (in office at the time) asked to be the graduation speaker. (That created an interesting atmosphere for graduation: thorough searches and secret service men armed with machine guns sitting on the rooftop overlooking the graduation field.) For unknown reasons, President Clinton had chosen UCSD as the place to roll out his diversity policy. Lizzie and her classmates found the president's speech odd as they looked around the graduation rows and could hardly find any two students of the same race sitting together. Now, seeing the situation here in South Carolina in which the Caucasians generally hold the best jobs, the African Americans generally work in the service field, and the Mexicans constitute the labor pool (of course, not 100% of the time, but the general tendency is in this direction), she understands why the president felt a need for a diversity policy.

Blaine, however, feels the small prejudices the most because he is of Mexican descent. He gets pulled over by the police about once a week for unknown reasons. They run his license or plates and then let him go without explanation. He is convinced that he is pulled over for DWM (what he calls "Driving While Mexican") which cannot, of course, be fined. He drives the kind of car that Caucasians typically drive, and he dresses in ways that the Caucasians generally dress. He holds a supervisory position within the university system, and so he talks the way that Caucasians generally talk. He was born and raised in California; he did not know that he was supposed to act differently from the mainstream population. When Lizzie's department chair met Blaine briefly, she reacted mostly to his skin color. Trying to help Lizzie decide to accept the job offer, an acceptance that would be based on Blaine finding a job, the chair mentioned that Lizzie should talk to one of the sociology professors who had done a lot of research on the immigrant pool in South Carolina. When Lizzie explained that Blaine was not an immigrant, that he had been born and raised in the USA (albeit to parents who were Mexican immigrants), the chair amended her response to note that this sociology professor speaks Spanish. She did not know how to respond when Lizzie said that Blaine does not.

One wonders if this kind of thinking is a legacy from pre-Civil War days. Does attitude last a century and a half?

Lizzie and Blaine yearn to come back to California where their mixed-ethnicity marriage is common. There is value, though, I believe in remaining in South Carolina and being an example (maybe even trend-setter) to others.

Yes, I know that all people from South Carolina -- as all people anywhere -- are not necessarily alike. Still, I am praying for the SC police force to look past skin color and stop unfairly pulling Blaine over for DWM.

I would love to hear from any South Carolinians. Is my/our perception wrong? Is there some explanation that I do not know? Please weigh in!

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Blest Guest Wednesday #3: There Is Someone Looking Out for Me (Ashley Siferd)

Since early August, it has been difficult for me to post regularly although I have somehow managed not to let more than a few days go by between posts. Considering that my crazy travel schedule is definitely going to continue for a few more months, I have been able to bring a little sanity to the blogging part of my life by asking for help. Some wonderful fellow bloggers have been willing to write guest posts for me on Wednesdays, hence the name "Blest Guest Wednesday." As today's "Blest Guest," I asked Ashley Siferd, who has been with me on this blog from nearly its very beginning and who writes a blog called If Necessary, Use Words. I think you will find her life, her blog, and her post here interesting. Here goes:

There Is Someone Looking Out For Me

While I don’t recall ever having a face-to-face encounter with an angel, I do believe that they are present in my life. Of course I think that those human beings who carry out certain kind acts that occur on a daily basis (like holding open a door for someone with full hands or picking up a person’s books that fell) are angels, but in this context, I mean the spiritual, ethereal beings who serve God.

I have never doubted the existence of God. Sometimes I have found myself thinking about the question, “Well, what if there wasn’t a God?” but I have never ever thought of an answer. I know that He in fact is there because on numerous occasions, I have felt His presence or that of someone who was helping me, like an angel.

I am not a terrible driver. I will admit that I have a certain degree of road rage, yes. However, I am careful. I’m both a defensive and offensive driver. But being both doesn’t mean that I will avoid every potential hazard or dangerous situation. Once while turning left onto the two-lane highway, the lady in the left lane either completely forgot that I was there or just didn’t care. She started to drift over into my lane while we were turning, and there was nowhere for me to go. I had just enough shoulder to move over, but it wouldn’t have helped because she just kept coming!

Her car should have hit me. Miraculously though, it did not. Puzzling to me also was that I was not enraged with her. I felt a calm presence in my car. I was safe and not angry. I couldn’t explain it. That is when I first realized that Someone up there is watching out for me.

I’ve recently had a few “almost catastrophes” in the car. Most of them have been not so nice folk who have nearly t-boned me while I have been going through a certain intersection. If you are driving up the hill next to my dorm, you do not have a stop sign but everyone else does. I always slow down so that I don’t get smeared, but apparently some people just don’t like to obey the law. Amazingly (and miraculously!) enough, my car and most importantly my life has been spared. Protected.

The other night I was driving home on the interstate. I had been told that bad weather was coming, but when I left campus, it was nice out…what bad weather were you talking about? I had just merged onto the interstate when it began to rain. I don’t enjoy driving on the interstate at night. I hate driving on the interstate when it is raining. What do you know? It starts raining very hard while I was driving home at night. The perfect storm, I guess, right? Well I had never had that unfortunate combination before. All I could do was pray and sing along with my mixed CDs. Even though it took me a lot longer than normal, I made it home safely. I found out later that I had been driving through a storm that had prompted several tornado warnings in the area!

Now every time I get in the car, even if it is just to go down the road two miles, I ask my guardian angel and my extra driving angels to watch out for me and to be in the car with me. I pray for a safe journey for me and the other drivers around me.

I’m sure that there have been numerous occasions when my angels have hit the palms of their hands on their heads in bewilderment, thinking, OMG what are we going to do with this girl? What was she thinking? I know I’m oblivious to some things that go on around me, but they certainly are not. I’m thankful for their constant vigilance, but I’m even more thankful that God has granted His angels charge over me. Lord knows I need them!